The Support System

My Bridal Party.

It is funny because in my time on theknot.com, I read all these horror stories about bridesmaids. How they didn't do enough, how they are meddling too much, all the stress it is causing brides as a result. I have NONE of this. I am so lucky in that regard. My bridesmaids have done nothing but be over the top in their support, excitement, participation, patience and love through this entire process. I don't know if I picked great people or just got really lucky but either way I feel honored. This is for them.

When I was little, I used to believe in the concept of one best friend, and then I started to become a woman.

And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up, you will find the best in many friends.

One friend is needed when you're going through things with your man.
Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your mom.
Another will sit beside you in the bleachers as you delight in your children and their activities. Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be.

One friend will say, "Let's cry together,"another, "Let's fight together,"another, "Let's walk away together."

One friend will meet your spiritual need, another your shoe fetish, another your love for movies, another will be with you in your season of confusion, another will be your clarifier, another the wind beneath your wings.

But whatever their assignment in your life, on whatever the occasion, on whatever the day, or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hairpulled back, or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself .

Those are your best friends. It may all be wrapped up in one woman, but for many, it's wrapped up in several...one from 7th grade, one from high school, several from the college years,a couple from old jobs, on some days your mother,on some days your neighbor, on others, your sisters, and on some days, your daughters.